It’s time for another book giveaway! I’m so excited to offer Christin Ditchfield’s latest book, What Women Should Know about Letting it Go: Breaking Free From the Power of Guilt, Discouragement, and Defeat. Read Christin’s excerpt from the book and then see the instructions for the drawing below.

Learning to Let It Go

by Christin Ditchfield

It’s not easy to let go of the wounds we’ve suffered, to extend God’s forgiveness and grace to others — even when we know how desperately we need it ourselves. Our hearts hurt too much. But holding on to bitterness and unforgiveness is far more damaging to us than it could ever be to those we’ve come to see as our enemies.

Someway, somehow we’ve got to find a way to let it go.

“God says we need to love our enemies. It hard to do. But it can start by telling the truth.” ~ Viola Davis as Aibileen Clark in The Help

Start by being honest – by telling yourself and Jesus the truth. Tell the truth about what happened and how you feel about it – how you really feel. Jesus won’t be shocked or horrified, I promise. He already knows. But until you know, until you’re honest with Him and with yourself, you can’t even begin to heal.

Remember that forgiveness is a process. It takes time to sort through all the thoughts and feelings, to learn to deal with painful memories, and to find (and stay in) an emotionally, mentally, and spiritually healthy place. 
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It often helps to talk to someone you can trust, someone who can give you perspective and be a good sounding board for you. It helps when you can pray for the people who have wounded you. It helps to remember that Jesus isn’t asking you to do anything He didn’t already do.

Sometimes you have to know that there may not be any resolution, any closure – let alone restoration or reconciliation – this side of eternity. It’s just not possible. The other person may have died – or they may be living, but you may not know where to find them. They may be thoroughly unrepentant, unwilling to even acknowledge what they’ve done or hear your side. They may be unsafe or unstable – totally incapable of having a rational conversation, but fully capable of causing you more harm. 
I’ve been in a few situations like this. It’s so hard. I’ve learned that all I can do is focus on my part, in my own heart. 

But if you suffer for doing good and you endure it, this is commendable before God. To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in His steps…When they hurled their insults at Him, He did not retaliate; when he suffered, He made no threats. Instead, He entrusted Himself to Him who judges justly. (1 Peter 2:20-23)


Sometimes you can actually get closure. You can get resolution. There may not be much relationship moving forward, but maybe there wasn’t much to begin with. Or maybe with everything that’s happened, it can never be the same. But at least the wrong is acknowledged and addressed. Apologies are made. Perhaps even genuine, heartfelt apologies. Forgiveness is asked for and received. Enough said.  

I’ve experienced this kind of outcome, too. It’s better, a lot better. But it’s not as good as it gets. Sometimes – sometimes – there is the incredible, miraculous, supernatural intervention of God. A couple of broken, mixed-up, messed-up people humble themselves before Him and before each other. And they experience His divine power to forgive. 

Deeply, truly, freely.

The forgiveness is flowing. The love is flowing. The mercy is flowing. The grace is flowing. The tears are flowing. Boy, are they flowing!

And the healing begins. There may have been a series of trembling, hesitant steps leading up to this point – and a series of cautious, careful steps afterward. But the point is, the relationship not only survives but thrives. It’s stronger than ever. 
That’s restoration and reconciliation, and I’ve experienced it, too. I know it’s possible. It does happen. I hear others share their own amazing stories – their testimonies – of divine forgiveness, healing, and restoration every day.

Don’t let your wounds turn you into a person you are not. Let go of bitterness and unforgiveness, so you can be free to be the woman God created you to be. 

Thank you, Christin, for blessing us with your powerful words.

Christin would like to send an autographed copy of her book to the winner of the drawing. To be entered, all you have to do is put in a comment here on the blog or email me: Kathyspeak AT gmail DOT COM. I’ll pick the winner Monday evening, February 15th, 2016. I’m sorry that we can only include in the drawing those with USA addresses. 

Update! CONGRATULATIONS to Joanie Cain, the winner of Christin’s book. Joanie: please email your mailing address to me: kathyspeak AT gmail DOT COM.


Christin Ditchfield is a popular conference speaker, syndicated radio host, and author of more than 66 books, including What Women Should Know About Letting It Go: Breaking Free From Guilt, Discouragement, and Defeat. You can connect with her on Pinterest, Facebook, or her blog,