No matter how many years you’ve been married, the third barrier to restoring love can affect you: boredom. It takes creativity and effort to restore your love by removing this obstacle.This can be especially true in the romantic area of your relationship. You know what I mean.

I’ll never forget the evening I decided to jazz up our intimacy. Larry was working the night shift at the time and got off work at 2 a.m. I called him at work before he got off and with my alluring voice said, “There will be a surprise for you when you get home.” When he walked in the door, I greeted him wearing a silky nightgown and led him into our bedroom lit with candles.


In what area of your relationship do you find boredom creeping in? What could you do or plan within the next week or month that could jumpstart you out of that rut? Maybe a simple, quick idea would be best rather than planning some extravagant event. Then your enthusiasm won’t wane. But do something!

If you want more ideas, check out the wonderful books by Pam and Bill Farrel. Their book Red Hot Monogamy will inspire you! Here’s another possibility written by Pam: 52 Ways to Wow Your Husband