by Kathy Collard Miller | Aug 2, 2016 | assumptions, marriage, people pleasing, perfection, relationships
I hope you are being blessed with our theme of “After I get him to the altar, I’ll alter him.” Today we’ll look at the manipulation myth: “If you change, we won’t have any problems.” Don’t laugh. I actually thought...
by Kathy Collard Miller | May 26, 2016 | contentment, grace, marriage, motives, people pleasing, perfectionism, unconditional love
In my last post, I noted some of the differences between men and women (generally speaking) is that women love the process. One of the ways she may “process” is through “dreaming of possibilities.” Here’s an example of a conversation that...
by Kathy Collard Miller | Dec 3, 2015 | abuse, anger, anxiety, peace, people pleasing, relationships, something difficult, strategy, strength, stress, temptation, trials, wisdom
Have you noticed you have difficult people in your life? Hmmmm, come to think of it; I may be one of them to you! Sometimes, “difficult” just means someone sees life differently than me. (Tweet that!) But other times, “difficult” can mean...
by Kathy Collard Miller | Sep 21, 2015 | anger, beliefs, people pleasing, worry
When we lived in Placentia, in Southern California, our home was less than a mile from a lake–as the duck fly. During a particular season of the year we have some of the ducks who reside there decide their old home isn’t a good enough place for...
by Kathy Collard Miller | Jul 10, 2015 | faith, fear of man, people pleasing, self talk, self-protective sinful strategies
In our book Never Ever Be the Same, Larry and I talk about a concept we call, “The Railroad Tracks Syndrome.” We see this occurring both in ourselves and in the people we give soul care/counseling to. For instance, I say I trust God (one of the RR track...
by Kathy Collard Miller | Mar 25, 2015 | faith, heart change, holiness, people pleasing, self-protective sinful strategies, sin, stress, Trust
Here’s one of my husband, Larry’s, stories in our book:I, Larry, remember as a child in Sunday School protecting myself from the ridicule of others about my poor public reading skills. It would just kill me when the teacher would have the group read a...
