I love book giveaways so much that I decided to host 2 this month! Also because I’m eager for you to hear about a very important book by Nancy C. Anderson called Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome: How to Grow Affair Proof Hedges Around Your Marriage” (Kregel 2017). Read below how to enter the drawing.
Do you think it’s possible for a marriage to continue after one of the spouses has had an affair? Nancy and Ron Andersen say yes. Just read this excerpt from Nancy’s book and be amazed at God’s power!
Can a Marriage Survive an Affair? Yes, Mine Did!
by Nancy C. Anderson
Hello, my name is Nancy, and I was a cheater. I’ve never cheated on a tax return or a final exam, but I did cheat on my husband. That’s why I’m an expert on infidelity—because I’ve lived it.
The “greener grass syndrome” has seduced many people into believing they’ll find true joy and fulfillment on the other side of the marital fence. I believed that lie.
Ron was twenty- six and I was twenty- two when we got married in 1978. Both of us thought that it was the other person’s job to “make me happy!” We soon found out that was impossible.
I complained and criticized my way through our first year, and then Ron retaliated with the “I’m a bad husband because you’re a bad wife” defense. He was controlling, demanding, and impatient. We both looked for ways to punish each other, and our anger and resentment grew until they overshadowed our love.
That’s when I met Jake. He thought I was beautiful, funny, and smart. He only saw the good in me, and he bathed me in compliments. We worked for the same company, so it was easy to spend time together. We started meeting for lunches, then dinners, and eventually . . . dessert.
The truth is, marriage is both difficult and effortless, magnificent and excruciating, blissful and tedious. Sometimes it’s all those things within the same day—even within the same hour.
I know how hard it is to stay in a less- than- perfect marriage while TV talk shows and well- meaning friends are preaching the “you deserve to be happy” gospel. I looked for that verse in the Bible. Trust me—it’s not there.
In the first section of this book, you’ll read about the self- deception and lame excuses I resorted to for my unfaithfulness. You probably won’t like me very much, and I’m okay with that, as long as you keep reading and give me a chance to show you what a swell gal I am now.
You’ll also meet my mom and dad. My parents’ “tough love” led Ron and me to reconciliation. Without their intervention, I don’t know if we would have been able to see any hope for our future. Their prayers and insights led us to the door of forgiveness, and then we walked through it.
The second part of the book is about our recovery and the things we’ve learned in the past thirty-five years of rebuilding our marriage. We faced our faults, changed our behavior, and decided to love each other. The purpose of this book, then, is to give you hope and encouragement, and provide you with exciting ways to grow a fabulous, affair- proof marriage.
Your new friend,
(copyright, used by permission, Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome: How to Grow Affair Proof Marriages Around Your Marriage 2nd Edition by Nancy C Anderson, Kregel Publications 2017)
Thank you, Nancy, for sharing with us.
From Kathy: To enter the drawing (only US addresses can win), make a comment on this blog post or connect with me through the Contact page on my website. The drawing ends on Sunday night, March 25th.
“This groundbreaking book is a compelling chronicle of Nancy Anderson’s journey to the other side of the marital fence—and her return as a prodigal wife who found forgiveness and restoration. It also offers encouraging suggestions, real- life examples, and practical guidance for couples who want to predict, prevent, or pardon infidelity. Counselors and couples alike will benefit from the honest insights of a couple that has been there.”
—Rick Warren’s Ministry Toolbox
You can reach Nancy at www.NancyCAnderson.com
Nancy C. Anderson ( www.NancyCAnderson.com) is an award-winning writer and speaker who is the author of Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome and a contributing writer of thirty other books, including six Chicken Soup for the Soul titles. She has written marriage articles for Crosswalk.com, CBN.com, Charisma.com and FamilyLife.com Nancy has been featured in national media such as The Huffington Post, The 700 Club, WORLD Magazine, Our Daily Bread and FamilyLife Today. She lives in Orange County, California with her husband of 40 years and their son, Nick.