Book Giveaway!!!! “The Ten Best Decisions a Single Mom Can Make” by PeggySue Wells and Pam Farrel
I’m so excited to feature this book for my October’s book drawing. Although I’ve never been a single mom, I sure felt like one for years, even though I was married. It’s no fun. So I want to encourage those who feel like or 
are single moms. And this book is fabulous by two excellent writers who write vulnerably and with biblically practical instruction and encouragement. Even if you’re not a single mom, you know someone who is and can pass the book along if you win it.
Read below for instructions on how to enter the drawing.
Here’s a sample of the encouragement PeggySue and Pam’s book offers.
Meet Today’s Solo Mom
by PeggySue Wells and Pam Farrel
Who is today’s single mom? Let me introduce you.
- One in four homes is single mom led
- 50 percent of U.S. kids will live in a single parent home before age 18
- 3/4 of single moms have full-time careers
- less than half receive government assistance
- most single moms who receive government assistance, do so only until they can support their family on their own
- less than half receive child support
- for those who receive child support, the average is less than $6000 yearly
- 40 percent of single moms are over 40 years old
- 100 percent wish the cleaning fairy showed up weekly to leave everything sparkling and something delish simmering in the oven
- 85 percent do not attend church
- most feel alone, isolated, and judged
Yet, single moms are not alone: nationally 15 million solo moms are raising 22 million children.
Good Decisions
The tricky part about trauma is how our body reacts. In a natural occurring sequence, trauma causes the thinking part of our brain – the cerebrum located in the front of our head – to go offline. In an emergency, the flight, fight, or freeze mechanism takes over, while the thinking part of our brain is disconnected. That flight, fight, or freeze part of the brain, the amygdala, is adjacent to the memory-making department which is why a smell, sound, or taste can trigger an unwanted ricochet back to the trauma we prefer to not recall.
Single parents have the same concerns as other parents. We long to nurture above average, healthy children who graduate with an ideal education, marry someone highly suitable and live abundant and contributing lives. Perhaps include us in that invitation-only Grammy Award club when the most adorable baby in the whole world arrives and calls us “grammy.” And we wonder how to shop auto insurance, complete taxes, and provide braces for our child.
All parents need the ability and skills to make wise, discerning decisions. Single moms often feel too overwhelmed to focus and be decisive when they most need to. Decision-making is critical in the best of circumstances, and the process can be daunting for a solo parent.
Hope and Help
Severed relationships frequently are the catalyst for a continuing list of other traumas including loss of identity, relocation, change in finances, new job, legal issues, unexpected cruelty, and broken hearts for mom and her child. For some, this upheaval can take place over a year or two before a new normal settles in. For others, particularly when there is emotional or mental complications, the turmoil is perpetual, keeping life and the thinking part of the brain off balance, and the amygdala’s fight, flight, or freeze protective mechanism on constant alert.
Recognizing the transition single moms experience as well as their need to make excellent parenting decisions, co-authors Pam Farrel (Men are Like Waffles, Women are Like Spaghetti) and PeggySue Wells (The Slave Across the Street) offer support and encouragement in The Ten Best Decisions A Single Mom Can Make and the companion, resource-rich website, SingleMomCircle.com.
Thank you PeggySue and Here’s more about their book:
Every single mom shares the same concerns. Are they making the right decisions?
In their hope-filled book, The 10 Best Decisions a Single Mom Can Make, bestselling author Pam Farrel, and Peggy Sue Wells, author of 30 books and single parent of seven children, walk single women through steps to become healthy emotionally, spiritually, and physically to successfully parent.
In this loving, judgement-free guide, readers learn how to:
- be decisive
- create a nurturing home
- be proactive
- date wisely
- embrace your happily-ever-after
- parent with courage, confidence, and clarity
Get The 10 Best Decisions a Single Mom Can Make
Ready to enter the drawing? All you need to do is make a comment on the blog post page (www.KathyCollardMiller.com)The drawing will close Saturday evening, October 9, 2021. Only USA addresses can win.
UPDATE: And the winner of the drawing is J.D. Congratulations, J.D. I’ll connect you with PeggySue and Pam.
PeggySue Wells
History buff and lover of tropical islands, PeggySue Wells parasails, skydives, scuba dives, and has taken (but not passed) pilot training. The solo mom of seven, she is the bestselling author of 30 books and the founder of SingleMomCircle.com.
Pam Farrel, with her husband, Bill, are international speakers, and authors of over 50 books including best-selling Men are like Waffles, Women are like Spaghetti. They are relationship specialists and seek to help people become “Love-Wise” Pam has experience as a Pastor’s wife and Women’s Ministry Director. Pam is a cheerleader, challenger and coach that believes that “The one who gets wisdom loves life.” (Proverbs 19:8) Her new creative Bible studies are Amazon bestsellers: Discovering Hope in the Psalms ; Discovering Joy in Philippians and Discovering Jesus in the Old Testament. When the Farrels are not traveling for speaking, you will find them on their live aboard boat or enjoying their 3 sons, 3 daughters in law and 5 grands. www.Love-Wise.com
Connect with PeggySue Wells at [email protected]
Connect with Pam Farrel at Love-Wise
Pam Farrel
Love Ms. Peggy Sue’s writing, and it’s a great honor to learn about Ms. Pam also. Such a blessing. Will get a copy for a single mother’s transitional living facility my wife and I support. Thank you for the blessing Ms. Kathy.
I’m so glad you know of PeggySue and now you know Pam Farrel also. I’m so glad I can support this important book. Thanks for passing along the news, J.D.
Congratulations, J.D. you are the winner of the drawing. I will connect you with PeggySue and Pam by email. Thank you, J.D., for your faithful participation on my blog.
I’m definitely going to read this book now that I see the information on severed relationships and other traumas. Thanks for sharing as well as the chance to win.
I’m so glad you see the value of this book, Karma. I’ve put your name into the drawing.
It is difficult to stay intentional as a single parent. We are juggling way too many balls. I agree with Kathy’s comment too – some married women feel like a single mom. That’s a tough place too. We need encouragement and no judgment. Let’s be kind to one another as moms.
Well said, Debbie. Thank you for sharing. I’ve put your name into the drawing.
This sounds like a much-needed resource. I grew up in a single parent family. My mom was amazing. This book would help a grieving friend of mine who lost her husband to cancer.
Leslie, what a beautiful gift of your mom’s wonderful impact on you. Even though a single mom, she blessed you. That is encouraging for single moms to know they can have a positive impact. I’m glad you can also see the importance of this wonderful book for your friend. I’ve entered your name into the drawing.
My husband was often detailed overseas which left me feeling like a single mom – especially because his career also required moving around the country as well far away from family and friends. Thanks for proving a resource for these “unsung” heroes!
I’m glad you shared about the challenges of the military family, Linda. You do not receive enough acclaim for your and your children’s sacrifice in serving our country. So as an American, I thank you. I once was talking with a woman I met at a conference and when I heard from her that her husband was in the military, I thanked her for her service to our country as his wife. She immediately burst into tears and said, “No one has ever thanked me before.” I was stunned and I’ve never forgotten that. So, Linda, please know we honor you and acknowledge you. I have two nieces whose husbands have been and are in the military. I know it’s not an easy life. So thank you again! 🙂 I’ve put your name into the drawing.
J.D., what a helpful gift to share The Ten Best Decisions A Single Mom Can Make with the transitional living facility! A good book to go through as a study at that location and in churches. This resource is our practical collection of what works for the success of moms and their families.
Karma, the fascinating thing about trauma is how it affects moms as described above. For kids, trauma comes out as disruptive behavior. This adds to the myth that solo moms are poor parents because their kids are the ones in the principal’s office, when actually the child is also feeling trauma because their world is turned upside down and how do you deal with that? I now understand that we don’t have bad kids as much as we have kids with broken hearts.
Debbie, imagine the difference in the world when women support instead of undermine and criticize one another. My hat is off to solo moms who determinedly do their best to parent in all settings. Well done!
Leslie, celebrating your amazing mom! And so kind of you to share The Ten Best Decisions A Single Mom Can Make with your friend who lost her husband to cancer. I pray the practical tips inside provide help and comfort. Your friendship is a gift.
Linda, we have had many moms share that the parenting info in The Ten Best Decisions A Single Mom Can Make proved helpful for married moms and for those who frequently have an absent spouse. We are parents together!
God bless you! Single moms are heroes!
My parent’s divorce moved my mom into single mom role- and she was amazing! Praying for your friend who just lost her husbnd